This article is part of a two-part series on redefining success through frequency and presence. In Part 1, we explore why success is not something you “earn” but something you embody. In Part 2, here, we dive into how to live aligned with your frequency, especially in the highs and lows of everyday life. How do you know when you’re “in it”?
What alignment feels like
Alignment doesn’t mean your life is free of challenge. It means you navigate life’s highs and lows with trust, steadiness, and presence. You know who you are, even when circumstances are uncertain.
You know you are in your frequency when…
- You embrace life’s rhythm. You understand that being human includes both joy and hardship. Highs and lows are not problems to be fixed but parts of the path.
- You trust the temporary. When life feels heavy, you sense (even if only faintly) that this moment will not last forever. Seasons shift, and so will this.
- You lean into mystery. You don’t need to know the outcome in order to move forward. You trust that meaning and direction will reveal themselves in time.
- You hold strength in the ache. Even when your heart hurts or your body is weary, you find yourself saying, “I can do this. I can grow through this.”
- You accept without collapsing. Acceptance doesn’t mean giving up. It means seeing life clearly and choosing how you’ll meet it with dignity, wisdom, and courage.
- You return again and again. Alignment isn’t permanent; it’s a practice of returning. You notice when you’re off, soften, and come back to your center.
- You live with less urgency to control. Instead of grasping, you trust the flow. You know the difference between what’s yours to carry and what isn’t.
Living in your frequency feels less like striving and more like returning to yourself.
How to recognize when you’re out of alignment
Just as important as knowing when you’re in your frequency is noticing when you’ve drifted:
- You feel constant urgency or pressure, even in small things.
- You’re reactive in relationships instead of responsive.
- You numb out (with screens, scrolling, busyness) rather than feel.
- You measure your worth only by output or achievement.
- You feel disconnected from your body, your breath, your presence.
We all lose alignment. The power is in noticing — and choosing to return.
Practices that bring you back
Pause and breathe. A single slow breath shifts your nervous system and reopens presence.
Name what’s real. Say: “This is hard. And it is temporary.” Truth-telling invites release.
Choose a micro-alignment. Step outside. Place a hand on your heart. Light a candle. These small anchors shift frequency more than grand gestures.
Reach for resonance. Call a trusted friend, hug your child, or listen to music that softens you. Resonance restores coherence.
Return daily. Alignment builds like muscle: through repetition, not perfection.
Why it matters
When you live in alignment with your frequency, your presence transforms:
- For yourself: you experience steadiness and joy, regardless of circumstances.
- For your children: you model resilience, emotional regulation, and trust in life’s unfolding.
- For your relationships: you create a field of safety, openness, and depth.
- For your quality of life: you shift from surviving to truly living.
This is what success looks like: not something earned, but a frequency you return to again and again.
Alignment is not a destination. It is a continual homecoming.
And in that homecoming, you discover the deepest truth: success has never been about how much you make or how much you prove. It has always been about how deeply you live, how present you are, and how faithfully you return to the frequency of who you truly are.
If you missed Part 1: You don’t have to “earn” success, go back to explore the science of frequency and why presence is the true foundation of success.
If this reflection spoke to you, I’d love for you to share it with a friend, co-worker, or sister who could use this reminder today. Presence and frequency ripple outward. Your share may be exactly what someone needs to feel steadier in their own journey.