This article is part of a two-part series on redefining success through frequency and presence. In Part 1, here, we explore why success is not something you “earn” but something you embody. In Part 2, we dive into how to live aligned with your frequency, especially in the highs and lows of everyday life.
Success is not something you earn - it’s something you embody
We’ve been conditioned to believe success comes only after hard work, sacrifice, and proving our worth. That if we just earn enough money, achieve enough milestones, or do enough for others, we’ll finally be “successful.”
But what if success isn’t something you earn? What if it’s something you inhabit?
Real success isn’t about money in the bank. It’s about your ability to live from presence, to align with your natural frequency, and to show up in relationships and life from that place.
What “frequency” really means
At first glance, frequency may sound like a vague spiritual concept. But science shows us that frequency is not just metaphor, it’s our biological reality.
- At the atomic level: Everything is energy in motion. Electrons orbit, nuclei vibrate, molecules oscillate. You are literally a being of motion and vibration.
- In your body: Your brain produces measurable wave frequencies (alpha, beta, delta, theta, gamma) that shape your states of mind. Your heart and nervous system generate electrical and magnetic fields that can be detected outside the body.
- As a whole system: You are constantly broadcasting and receiving subtle signals (emotional tone, nervous system regulation, even micro-expressions and hormonal cues) all of which influence how people experience you.
When we talk about “frequency,” we’re talking about your vibrational state: the way your mind, body, and energy resonate together. High coherence feels like calm, clarity, openness. Low coherence feels like tension, noise, and reactivity.
Why frequency matters so much
- It shapes your perception. If you’re in scarcity, you’ll notice only lack. If you’re in trust, you’ll notice opportunities.
- It influences relationships. People naturally attune to the emotional field around them. Your frequency sets the tone for your family, intimate partnerships, your friendships, your work.
- It impacts your health. Chronic stress dysregulates the nervous system, while calm, regulated states promote healing and resilience.
- It builds over time. Frequency isn’t a one-time “high vibe.” It’s a baseline you cultivate through repeated states of alignment.
Your frequency becomes your lived reality.
Presence and quality of life
When you stop trying to prove your worth and begin living from presence, you:
- experience less inner friction.
- become steadier through ups and downs.
- connect more deeply with people.
- find joy in the process, not just the result.
Presence is not passive. It’s active participation in life with your whole self. It’s what makes ordinary days meaningful, and challenging times survivable.
Why presence matters for parenting
Children don’t just listen to what we say, they feel who we are. Your inner frequency becomes the emotional climate of your home.
1. Emotional resonance
Children mirror the nervous system states of their caregivers. If you meet their big feelings with calm presence, they learn to self-regulate.
Example: Your child comes home upset from school. Instead of saying “It’s not a big deal,” you pause, breathe, and say, “That sounds really hard. I’m right here.” They exhale into your calm, and their system begins to regulate.
2. Relational safety
When you are consistent, responsive, and present, your child internalizes the message: I belong. I matter. I can lean in.
Example: Your teen storms off and slams a door. Instead of escalating, you knock gently and say, “I can see you’re upset. I’m here when you’re ready.” They learn your love doesn’t disappear when things get hard.
3. Attachment & internal models
Over time, children form “internal working models” of relationships based on repeated emotional climates. Your consistent presence lays the foundation for secure attachment.
Example: Your toddler wakes often at night. Even though you’re tired, you go in, rub their back, and whisper, “You’re safe, I’m here.” Repeated experiences like this teach them the world is trustworthy and they are worthy of care.
The science behind it
- Maternal mental health impacts children’s outcomes. Depression and anxiety in mothers are linked with more negative child emotional, behavioral, and academic outcomes.
- Stress changes brain development. High maternal stress during pregnancy is associated with changes in children’s brain structure and connectivity, affecting memory and emotional regulation.
- Presence fosters secure attachment. Research shows maternal sensitivity and attunement predict secure attachment, which is linked to better emotional regulation and resilience later in life.
Simply put: your presence and frequency matter more to your child than any material measure of success.
A new definition of success
Success is not a paycheck or a title. It’s not something you earn after enough effort.
Success is the ability to live aligned with your frequency, present with yourself and others, steady enough to weather the lows, and open enough to enjoy the highs.
That is the kind of success that transforms not only your life, but also the lives of your children.
Success is not meant to be walked alone. If this post resonated, pass it along to someone you love. Together, we’re creating a culture where women and mothers are valued for who they are; not just what they earn or produce.
Continue the journey in Part 2: Living in alignment with your frequency, we’ll explore what how it may look and feel to live in alignment: the signs you’re in your flow, how to know when you’re out of sync, and how to return with gentleness and trust.