There’s this quiet pressure many women carry -
To be more healed.
More certain.
More graceful.
More complete.
To finally get it “together.”
But womanhood isn’t a straight line.
It’s a spiral. A shedding. A remembering.
And there’s no finish line to cross that says:
Now you’ve made it. Now you’re done.
We live in a culture that prizes arrival -
We’re told we’ll be worthy when we’ve hit all the milestones.
The degree. The job. The partner. The baby. The perfectly balanced life.
But that’s not the truth of womanhood.
That’s a system’s version of success. Not your soul’s.
Womanhood is a series of sacred initiations
We don’t talk enough about how many times a woman is asked to become herself in a lifetime.
We move through phases - maiden, mother, matriarch, mystic - each one asking us to let go of who we were and step into something unknown.
It could be a breakup. A birth. A diagnosis.
A relocation. An awakening. A death.
A moment when everything we thought we knew... shifts.
These initiations are sacred.
They invite us to see the world differently.
To reorder our priorities.
To question who we are, what we value, and what we're willing to carry forward.
Sometimes they come quietly.
Other times, they break us open.
But every time, they are an invitation - to grow, to return, and to reclaim.
There’s no “final” version of you
If you’re waiting for the moment you feel completely healed, perfectly wise, unshakeable in your knowing...
Pause. Breathe.
That moment may never arrive, and that’s not a failure.
That’s what makes you real.
You are meant to live in rhythm, not rigidity.
You are meant to evolve.
To shift with the seasons of your soul.
You don’t have to be more productive.
You don’t have to be more pleasing.
You don’t have to be more anything to be enough.
You get to be present in your becoming.
Let the spiral be enough
There’s no crown handed out at the end.
No report card. No perfect version of you that’s waiting at the top of the mountain.
There’s just this path.
And the version of you who’s walking it today.
So let’s lay down the pressure to be “done.”
Let’s honor the initiations that shape us.
Let’s bless the pivots, the pauses, the phases that call us deeper.
You are already wise.
You are already whole.
And you are right on time.
There is no finish line in womanhood.
There is only the sacred unfolding of you.